I had just gone on not one but two dead-end dates. Both guys had been nice enough, but there was zero chemistry with either. I talked on the phone with my best friend, and we lamented the lack of dating prospects in our respective areas and wished that things were different. I had always thought that going out on casual dates would give me a self-confidence boost, but the reality was more stressful than flattering. I learned from these dates that sometimes you do know. These experiences left me feeling exhausted, and I was ready for a break.
If you are single right now, take stock of all of the great relationships in your life.
Chances are, they can all tell you a thing or two about what you are looking for in a romantic partner. Do some online research to see if there are any young adult groups in your area and check out the events they are hosting.
Taking a dating break
A great time to meet someone you like is while doing something you love. You might make a new friend or make a romantic connection, but the important thing is to have fun and be yourself. Another way to meet new people is to get some friends together and throw a party.
But not just any party.
Enlist your friends to craft a guest list full of your most wonderful single friends. You can just sit back, relax, and see where the night takes you. Taking a break from dating can be a great opportunity to discover more about yourself, learn more about what you want in a relationship, and meet new people without worrying too much about the future.
When you do decide to get back out there, you will know yourself much better and be able to date with confidence.
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Get to know yourself.
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The real question is, do you really think the truth is not going to come out eventually? Then what?
Keep me ated because I'd love to know how that works out for you. I have friends who lie to guys about lots of stuff, either out of embarrassment, a desire to have power over them that only comes from being perceived in a certain way or in an effort to trap them under their spell because they need attention.
One of my friends is 30 years old, and has always lived with her parents. Clearly, she's pretending her permanent living situation is only temporary. I can forgive her for that one white lie, I guess. But if someone's lying about lots of stuff like that, it can be a sign of a pretty serious personality disorder.
All of your lies will be out in the open soon enough. But hey, at least you look hot in a bikini. Maybe love is a drug for you.
As soon as you experience the high his attention gives you, you crave it more and more. You find yourself choosing this man you just met over your best friends because you need that attention and require the uplifting validation he gives you.
Nobody will argue that the high you get after an amazing date isn't awesome. But when you're prioritizing someone you just met over your friends and family, you're swimming in dangerous waters.
Be careful how often you leave your best friend in the dust for a guy you just met. She's the one you ultimately need, not him.
He might not even be around anymore when all those truths you've been covering up start to come out. If you suddenly forget about your friends the moment a guy shows you positive attention, you definitely should stop dating before you lose the people in your life who truly matter.
What To Do When A Guy Asks For A Break
Do you find that when you're dating someone, you don't enjoy sober sex? Do you find you don't enjoy hanging out with him as much if there's no alcohol involved? If you're always suggesting dates that involve drinking, you might want to switch it up. He will catch on eventually, and call you out on it. I predict an awkward conversation about substance abuse coming your way. This all comes back to loving yourself. You won't need to drink to have fun if you get to a place where you truly love yourself.
If you're not there yet, it's OK. But you owe it to yourself to stay single until you get there.
It's OK to Take a Break from Dating
There shouldn't be a significant contrast between how happy you are when you're single and how happy you are when you're in a relationship. It's also necessary for both people have the opportunity to express their feelings and work on those issues. Communicate why you want a break clearly and respectfully.
If you are kind and explain why a break can be helpful, both people can feel a little more comfortable with the idea.
Take this time to really think about yourself and the relationship. Once you take the time you need to focus on your personal and external issues in a relationship, you'll hopefully start to find clarity.