I had been dating a girl for 3 months. We went out about times per week and generally seemed to have a great time together. We had so many things in common and a great physical connection. I was really starting to think there was long-term potential here. If there were any problems with the relationship, in my opinion, it was the fact that we both had a lot of weekend obligations over the summer. These weekends spent out of town prevented us from being able to see each other most weekends.
It's been a week now and I haven't reached out to her or heard from her. However, a few nights ago, she viewed my online dating profile on the site we met on. This was surprising to me, especially since she'll know I was able to see that she looked.
Can anything be made of this? I'd do anything to get her back.
I have a few friends that are insisting I should casually reach out to her next week and send a brief text or email asking if she has time for a quick drink. They think I should tell her I know exactly where she was coming from, but to point out the reasons I thought caused this and to show the fact that I'm committed to doing anything to making things work, even if it means sacrificing some pride.
They figure I have so much more to gain than to lose by trying. If I got a firm no, I'd definitely go NC from there.
I'd plan to move on with my life, begin dating new girls, and put this experience behind me once and for all. In fact, I've already become active again on the dating site I met her on and I'm talking to a few girls.
Aside from just moving on altogether, here are what I see as the three paths I can take: 1. Ask her to get a quick drink this week and take a chance with the talk. 2. Wait it out with 3 weeks of NC (or more) and then meet up with her for the talk. 3. Wait it out for a few weeks, get back in. Nov 08, From what you described, 3 months is reasonable amount of time to see if the relationship will progress to exclusivity/bf-gf relationship. Best case scenario is the guy initiating putting the label as by this time, he can reasonably know whether or not he wants you to be his girlfriend. Tasha has been dating Sam for three months and it has been the best time in her life. They immediately felt connected, the chemistry was hot, it was easy to see that he was a kind and considerate soul.
What would you suggest doing from here? Aside from just moving on altogether, here are what I see as the three paths I can take:. Wait it out for a few weeks, get back in touch, and try to let the "connection" she was talking about happen naturally by casually seeing her and having a good time if she's up for this.
Thanks a lot for taking the time to read this, and for any suggestions. I know it was really long, but I wanted to paint the full picture as best as I could.
The day trial period, often known as the honeymoon phase, is marked with dating wonder. Then one day you wake up and it has been 3 months, which typically means it's time to sink or swim. Nov 03, That's why I always say to myself, to my friends, and to you, single people, check in after three months and tell me how great the new person you're dating is. If everything is still coming up. After three months, it feels like three years. And after three months, you look forward to the next three years. You tingle with anticipation at what new things you will learn and love about her. After three months, you are still learning one another, but after three months, you know that you never want to be with anyone else ever again.
It was slightly more complicated in that when we met she had a boyfriend, but she wasn't happy and we really connected on all levels.
She left him at the weekend, went to my place, but broke down the next morning because she missed him. She told me similar things as your ex did, that she loved spending time with me, had happy memories etc, but for her the grief of ending a 5yr relationship was overwhelming and she has conflicted feelings for both of us. I'm not going to contact her.
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Everything I've read suggests that women don't like needy men, and getting on with things, keeping yourself active, healthy etc will be more beneficial than not. It sounds like it was a difficult decision for your ex, as I know it was for mine. When we split, it was very intimate, lingering and with tears running down her face. Give it time, tough it out for a week and see what happens and then make a plan for the next week.
I've booked myself a holiday, been out with friends, even chatted up a stranger on a plane and swapped nos, with agreement to meet for dinner in a week or 2!
I dont know if this will help but maybe it will let you understand her a little.
Jul 11, Intense dating takes a lot out of a man. In a situation like this the best thing you can really do is give him time and space to recover his masculine energy, his testosterone levels and for him to feel like a man again. Men tend to fall deeper in.
I am the same age as your girl and to this day I have never had a serious relationship. At least not one that was functional or healthy. I come from a dysfuctional family with 0 male role models. I grew up in an eviroment where men could not be trusted. Also my first experience with love was very disappointing so very early in life, I set impossible high standards for my ideal partner. Is this her case? Maybe she did not come from a dysfuctional family but the opposite.
Is she very attached to her dad? My point is, whenever I met a guy I would always hit it off the first two months, only to lose interest later because of some ridiculous expectations they could never fill. I would always end the relationship over incomprehensible reasons that didn't even make sense to me. I only knew that there wasn't a connection.
Now I understand that most of the times I was just afraid of disappointment.
Of forming an actual connection with someone and not being able to maintain it. I was afraid of being hurt again. I don't know how well you know her or even if this even applies to her. All I can tell you is that most of the times I broke it up with someone over fear, I regreted it.
If she really likes you, give her some time. Try to keep the friendship. Let her know u r there. You wont bolt so easily.
You will not disappoint her.
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If she is the one. She will feel safe and things will naturally progress, if not, at least you'll have a good friend. You mentioned the three weeks you were together was the longest relationship she ever had.
That is a real tell tale sign right there.
Also seeing someone for three weeks is not a relationship. Hi DR Thank you for such detail with your story I think you should realize that there maybe a third party in this situation. We all have a past Its important not to take for granted that such a great girl comes with no strings I don't believe she is being completely honest about why she doesn't want to be with you.
If you can have a sit down with her, it might uncover some valuable info that will help you in what your next step should be. I think the fact she has never been in a long term relationship shows a ton!
Its not you, its her. For whatever reason she isnt able to commit. Try if you feel you need to for closure. She just may not be able to give you what you need.
And that is probably something she isnt happy with about her self. Same thing happened to me, never got closure after being dumped after about 8 months.
I did have problems with depression that are now largely under control, but I thought I'd supported her enough and been there for her enough for her to give me the time I needed to sort myself out. It's difficult as the other party always has their own issues, be it exes, kids or their own health problems.
Sometimes you just don't get the straight answer, and that hurts big time.
Hang in there my friend, we'll get out of this one together! I broke up with him after almost 3 mos of relationship. I feel like I don't deserve him and I cant believe that I have him. I broke up with him I told him our personalities are totally opposite blah blah blah Its been 2 weeks now he didn't say anything he didn't send anything What is the reasoning for this and what would want the other person to do in this case.
Wow, this literally happened to me over the past 10 days.
I met her friends. She met some of mine.
We were hanging out twice a week or so - she never actually committed to saying we were in a relationship, but I was okay with that since we werent dating other people and didnt want to pressure any decisions - she would be the first to text me in the morning on most days - she talked about getting nervous about me meeting her mother her parents are divorced during her bday wknd this weekend - she called me 10 days ago and said she is sorry she didnt want a relationship right now.
She caught me off guard, so i didnt have much to say other than okay. She said she would text me in a couple days - a week passed so i dropped off a gift at her work for her birthday. She texted me back thanking me so much as no one has ever done that before - Were going to chat tomorrow, after 11 days of not seeing eachother - mixed signals leading up to the phone call, she was texting me first in the morning, calling me babe, and always told me that she liked me a lot.
Now i am just very confused and feeling quite depressed over the past week since I dont know what led to her decision. Hopefully I find out tomorrow. Did she want to break things up before her bday where id be there? Before the holidays to avoid that?
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Could be 1 million different reasons. I hope it goes well for you. Let us know how you get on? We talked today text She was taking anti-depressants i did know that.
And that Id be willing to stay friends if she wanted. I figure I wont text her for a while. Opening the door to your treasure trove of valuable friends is a clear indicator that your Mr.
Someone is Mr. Someone Special, and the relationship might have potential. That holds true for a guy, as well. Score yourself on a scale of 1 to 5:!
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Relationships with potential bring out your very best self. Think about who you are in this relationship vs who you are outside of it. Are you rising to your best self? Is this relationship helping to make you a better you? How much do you have in common? Does your dog like him? Rate your relationship: Score yourself on a scale of 1 to 5:! Are you your best self?