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Are you comfortable talking to each other about challenging subjects such or do you avoid confrontation? On the flip side can you listen to him speak about his agnostic views without rolling your eyes or wanting to shut him down? Are you hoping he will eventually change and be converted? You want your children to be raised as Christians, but what does that mean?
What would that look like in you every day life? Does it mean that you will take the kids to church every week while he stays home? Does it mean that he will come with you and play the role of a Christian for the sake of the kids?
I'm an atheist male dating a Christian girl who was raised in a Methodist church. Curious to see if there are any others on like us. I'd love to hear your story. k comments. share. save hide report. 81Upvoted. This thread is archived. New comments cannot be . When a Christian marries an agnostic, or anyone of non-Christian belief for that matter, this unity of purpose and direction is not possible. That which is fundamental and central to the Christian person's life is not fundamental and central to the non-Christian's life. I am 25 and have been dating the most wonderful guy for the last 3 years. I am a christian and he is agnostic. He treats me so wonderful and there is not a bad bone in his body, he respects my faith. He wants us to get engaged, can I marry an unbeliever and continue to .
Does it mean that you can freely be a Christian and he can feel free to be an agnostic in front of the kids? If Dad is free to be agnostic, how will you feel if your children decide they want to do what Dad does?
Can you live with that? What kind of reaction of support would you want from your husband? Does his feelings matter at all in any of this? You may want to meet with a mediator or counselor to sort this out. Is this a deal breaker? Can you stay with him or will you leave him? What kind of relationship are you looking for and does this meet your ideal? Whether you come to some kind of agreement or not you should ask yourself why this is so important to you?
Is this really the only way? Are there no other solutions? I have seen a few interfaith and faith-no-faith marriages that stood the test of time. In all those instances someone always succumbed to the lifestyle of the other. I think you have decided who that should be.
The question is whether or not he will feel the same way. Do you have any comments, or advice? Feel free to post them! I just ask that you remain respectful in what you say. If you have any questions for me send them to lifeaccordingtolouise1 gmail.
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That comes later. Thanks for your integrity staying here; it seems to be a strong part of your character. He wrote the still-used standards for federal evidence being admitted in court, and he applies the same rigorous standards to the Gospels. If you are concerned with integrity, here is where to look.
BTW Christianity is incredibly invigorating, and intellectual, not stifiling. That there is the work of the human ego and that is what the concept of original sin represents. I understand that marriage may be hard, that is why we are still taking things slow 4 years later. She used to think I would "find God" and I used to think she would eventually stop believing fairy tales.
We both know that will not happen, and if we cannot make one another happy while having different beliefs then we may need to part And because of my own conviction and love for the Lord, our relationship has changed dramatically.
How can someone who lives or is supposed to live for Christ, even think about marrying someone who does not think that. I would question whether your girlfriend really is a Christian meaning that you recognize that the Lord died for you personally and believing it completely through faith. Brian, I know from following your conversation that you have strong convictions about what you believe. But as someone who recieved Christ as Savior about a half a year ago, and being married to a professing athiest, I now know that being a Christian and living with someone who does not believe in God is something that is causing us a lot of pain.
But I can't walk away from my own faith, becuase I know from personal experience and conviction that the Lord Jesus died for me. I married a guy ten years ago who said he believed in God, but was not a practicing Christian.
He went to church with me reluctantly], and after we got married, stopped. I go by myself every week. Now I am stuck in this marriage because divorce is a sin. I try to love him even though I am not IN love.
Eventually, it could ruin your life. I am OK with the fact that I will wander thru this life without a definitive belief system. This allows me explore new ideas and to change my preceptions of life on the fly. My only certianity is that I am uncertian about the future, Faith in Chaos is my motto. Does that shed light onto my situation?
I am responsible to my self and the rest of humanity.
As far as my conviction is concerned, I live by the idea that I am a mere human that obviously came from the same source as the rest of existance, but I do not claim to know what that source is, nor do I think that knowladge is obtainable at this time. I do not believe in heaven and hell and the idea of a consious afterlife is extremely doubtful, but should there be one I will deal with it then You have told us what you do not believe, but not what you do believe, unless you believe you are totally self-sufficient and responsible only to and for yourself.
But that does not tie in with your acceptance that there is a possibility that there is a God. I understand that you are trying to help me in your eyes, but my journey is a personal one.
If by chance there is an afterlife like you say, I will stand before my creator and speak the truth. He can then lay his decision aupon me and I will accept that, for my conviction is that strong! I respect beliefs and give credit for your integrity. But you need to see that I WAS a christian, but left because I felt a need to pave my own path thru life and I felt held back by my christian beliefs.
If they work for you, thats great, respect! But they don't work for me, and I go into this with no fear. I am a loving careing being much like your view of God and I am steadfast with my convictions and live and die by them, much like Jesus, Mohammad, and Siddhartha Gautama. What I said is true but possibly not the best response to what you wrote. There is something called Pascal's Gambit. It goes like this:. You may believe in God, and if God doesn't exist, you have lost nothing.
You may not believe in God, and if God doesn't exist, you have lost nothing. As we have seen in my previous message to you even the devils believe God exists but it will do them no good. For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life. For God sent not his Son into the world to condemn the world; but that the world through him might be saved. It is a belief that takes action based on that truth.
PART SIX: It is the kind of belief that you have as you drive down the road on a foggy night, unable to see very far ahead and you do not slow down when you approach a bridge that you cannot see. That is the kind of belief in God that is a saving belief. The alternative is Hell.
How does that sound? Matthew"Then shall he say also unto them on the left hand, Depart from me, ye cursed, into everlasting fire, prepared for the devil and his angels:" This is what you need saving from. Brian: You miss the point when you compare yourselves with others; each of us stand before God on his own. Knowing you may reject that, I offer a book for you to read, "Testimony of the Evangelists" by Simon Greenleaf.
Dating someone whose religious beliefs differs from yours heightens the challenges you already have in a relationship. You say your a Christian, so I am assuming that you know about the scripture that says "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers" 2 Cor Aug 27, Christian Chat is a moderated online Christian community allowing Christians around the world to fellowship with each other in real time chat via webcam, voice, and text, with the Christian Chat archotelzeeland.com can also start or participate in a Bible-based discussion here in the Christian Chat Forums, where members can also share with each other their own videos, . Agnostic Dating Site is part of the Online Connections dating network, which includes many other general and agnostic dating sites. As a member of Agnostic Dating Site, your profile will automatically be shown on related agnostic dating sites or to related users in the Online Connections network at no additional charge.
Buy on line If you are investagative, or intelligent, you will discover new things. Brian, from this and your previous postings I seriously doubt the salvation of your girlfriend.
She is giving you a false sense of security talking about your good morals like that. That is works and we are not saved by works but by the shed blood of Jesus.
You BOTH need to ensure that you are heading for the right place. James"Thou believest that there is one God; thou doest well: the devils also believe, and tremble. This does not happen by accident or by association but by personal choice. Jesus drew a comparison to this spritual birth to natural birth.
The spiritual birth is as real and specific as is natural birth. If you have not been born again born from above you will be lost in eternity. Sure my girlfriend would love to see me "saved", but there is nothing I need saving from.
As she has said many times that I have better morals then most christians. I don't accept the concept of heaven and hell, and if God would want to punish me for not subscribing to Dogma, then so be it! If heaven is just that then it does not sound like a place I want to be. There is more to life then reward and punishment. If your girl-friend isn't worried about you going to hell she is probably not really saved herself. If she were truly a Christian she would want you to find Christ as your Saviour more than anything else in the world.
This 'trivial' difference is anything but trivial. There are Christian parents with unsaved children whom they long to see saved and Christian children with unsaved parents whom they long to see saved the end being very close for some of them.
I can totally understand you being happy having a Christian girlfriend but I cannot understand her being happy having an unsaved boyfriend. Saved girls often think they can 'save' their boyfriend. It rarely happens and often she becomes a back-slider. Brian;At 25,you have met a lady of your dreams, the only deterant, is your belief, as an admitted Agnostic. Brian, see what Mod has said.
You see to a Christian, it is a matter of great importance, greater than our life here or our happiness here. An agnostic friend of mine has said if I can't find a Christian lady, find someone else. But if I married and loved someone, how could I deal with knowing that the person I loved was not going to join me in heaven?
I'm Agnostic with a Christian girlfriend of 4 years.
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So much destruction in the world has been by religious and other differences. We are doing our best to bridge the gaps and show that true human love can prevail.
Enjoy your relationship and don't let the dogmatic rubbish cloud your judgement. If there is a benevolent entity, I'm sure it would want to see you happy and doing the right thing which IS NOT segregating yourself from other because of trivial differences!
Moderator - To a true Christian, it is not a trivial difference as to whether one will spend their eternity in heaven or hell.
I strongly agree with Toni. Also the john that is a pastor has a very good post concerning this. Don't let your desire to be married override good Christian judgment. John your relationship might seem to be fine right now but if your girlfriend is truly a Christian rather than just a churchgoer it will not remain fine. Many people who are not Christians do give themselves this title.
If she really is a Christian though she is unequally yoked and disobeying God's Word. At some point this is going to go wrong. I've been dating a christian girl for 2 years now, Im not religous at all, I believe in god, just not in one certain religion, our relationship is fine.
Your differing philosophies on the nature of existence don't need to cause confliction in your marriage. Truth is undisputable. If you can show him the truth, he will understand. If he understands, he will invariably follow God.
All the naysayers seem to think that anyone who doesn't believe in God is evil or unapproachable about the subject. Just don't force anything down his throat and be patient. Ask God for help. I'm sure he'll be more than happy to help you lead a fellow soul to his glory.
Marrying him would be like marrying the devil - nothing but bad things will happen! You are totally decieved if you think you will get along. When hard times come he will turn to a different place than you for help. In raising children he will have other philosophies. I've been in ministry for 20 years and have never yet seen an unequal marriage survive. You should win him to the Lord and make sure of his salvation before you continue your relationship. You say he's a nice guy but God says he's the son of the devil until he gets saved.
Be ye Not unequally yoaked. Gods Word is Truth. If you are a born-again Christian, that means you were filled with the Holy Spirit at the time you received Christ. If unsaved, your boyfriend does not have the same Spirit of God dwelling in him.
Therefore, you can't have the oneness in marriage as taught in the Bible.
Can an atheist and a believer build a strong, lasting marriage? My girlfriend and I are terrific together. Her family loves me and everyone else says we're the perfect couple. There's just one catch: she's a strong Christian, but I don't believe in God at all. Do you think the religious differences between us pose a serious problem? Personally, I could care less what other . Mar 11, Christian members please remember to read the Statement of Purpose threads for each forum within Christian Congregations before posting in the forum. Christian dating an agnostic Discussion in 'Courting Couples' started by longhardroad, Mar 8, Mar 8, #1. longhardroad New Member. 2 +0. archotelzeeland.com is a non-profit community for atheists, agnostics, humanists, freethinkers, skeptics and others!.
That's why the Word of God says don't be unequally yoked. God wants to give you a mate that brings you closer to Him. The husband is called to be the spiritual leader in the home and by God's design has spiritual authority over his wife. I understand exactly how you feel. Not long ago, I was tempted to begin a relationship with an agnostic, however I prayed about this man and I believe he was removed from my life to prevent future pain.
I agree with the previous responders-clearly this man needs to be lead to the Lord before marriage, otherwise, you're asking for heartache and stress in the future. Remember, God gives us free will, however when you stray from His words, beware of the fall You shouldn't be with this guy in the first place He can pull you down in a heartbeat.
The principle danger of a Christian marrying a non believer or an agnostic is that the non believing spouse can cause you to waver in your faith. Its not beneficial to be unequally yoked.
Like the Bible says: What has the light in common with darkness? Don't really believe the Bible tells us to "date" in the first place. Prefer the idea of courtship to dating. Being an agnostic does not mean that he does not believe in God, it means that he has no knowledge of God.
Do not force anything down his throat, you can work with this if he is willing to look into and study. If you need some ideas of what to suggest to him, please ask.
Should A Christian Date A Non-Christian? - Jefferson & Alyssa Bethke
He may simply want sufficient evidence that Scripture is correct.