Appearing here Wednesdays, Turning The Screw provides existential crisis counseling for the faint of heart. Recently one of my best friends since childhood started dating my sister whom I am also super close with. I talk to both of them constantly, all the time, about everything. Particularly dating, as we are all ladies in our 20s and that is pretty much our main interest. I think it feels almost incesty to me. Finally, the way it went down was pretty shady.
I just want you to know that I know exactly how terrible this feels for you. You have lost something.
Maybe we all have to mourn the loss of this kind of unconditional connection at some point. My best friend and I used to talk for hours on end, without a pause. We used to write songs and perform together. But fuck that. We were so full of ideas and so open-hearted and so young, and we really loved each other. Forget how they told you about it, how you said you were bothered and they did it anyway.
File all of that under: Two People In Love. You probably laid the groundwork for them to fall in love, too, because they had that shared love of you, that shared knowledge of you, right out of the gate. Maybe you learned, with each of them, how to be a good friend, how to listen, how to entertain, how to open up and tell the truth, and you taught them these things, too.
They told a few little lies to protect their chances at love, to prevent you from coming between them. They have not trespassed against you, OK? I would be very careful about that.
You can flag some obvious potential pitfalls of three-way communication, but I would not try to control what they talk about. If you get pissed about information getting passed between them, you could hurt them and hurt yourself and make a big mess. Keep your nose clean.
How do I handle my best friend dating my little sister?
I mean it. If you have to detach a tiny bit, then do it. Most of all, though, I want to tell you to keep your heart open to them, as open as you can possibly stand. Platonic friendships between women are defined in such casual terms. Close friendships with women age differently. Even so, at that wedding, I looked at my ex-best-friend and thought: We may not spend much time together, before we die.
My sister is dating my best friend
Not that many. There was a magic to our friendship, to our collaborations, to our most mundane conversations. Only a pathetic child would feel the need to hide something like that. He obviously suffers from severe testosterone deficiency.
I hear that can be fatal in weak-minded snowflake pansies You definitely need to upgrade the quality of people you surround yourself with. I m not saying he shouldn t date your sister.
I am saying his actions do not reflect a mature man who respects her like he ought. Also, what kind of friend would keep something like this from you? He s a loser. Shes your little sister who you've got to take care of and look after so i dont think if i was you i wouldnt be his 'best friend' anymore. ate: I would like to talk to both of them about this but I don't know where to start. Answer Save. Favorite Answer. How do you think about the answers? You can sign in to vote the answer.
Willow the Monkey Nut Lv 4. LadyCatherine Lv 7. Is he over-protective of his sister? He might simply know too much about you and your predilections to not feel at least a little uneasy at the thought of you dating his sister.
Nothing wrong with it but for me, personally, it's just too close to social circle. I have done it before and always, the brother gets involved and I can't be bothered with it. It can lead to complications in friendship if things don't go to well.
Especially if you break up and you meeet your mate So I don't date my best friends sisters no matter how attract they maybe. Just can't be bothered with hassle and it's far too close with social circle.
I personally got options anyway. I approach tons of women anyway, and I rather keep clo I approach tons of women anyway, and I rather keep close social circle as nothing more than friends.
May 01, It doesn't to them because when my friend and I were living at our parents' houses and hanging out with each others' families, I always went to her house. She really doesn't know my family super-well. But she is someone who I would describe as being "like a sister to me" so it is so gross that she is dating my actual sister. 3. Aug 30, My little sister just turned 18 (few days) and we had a big birthday bash for her. Well I caught her and my best friend (who's 24) kissing in the kitchen, I pretended not to notice but then I confronted them about it and they told me they had been seeing each other for past year. I was shocked and I was angry at the both of them, I mean this is my best friend we've been best friends for I dating want you to know that I best exactly how terrible this feels for you. You have lost something. Maybe we all have to mourn the loss of this honest of unconditional connection at some point. My best friend and I used sister talk for hours on end, without a pause. We used to write dating and perform together. But fuck that.
My brother and I are very close and tell each other everything. About a year ago, I started to develop feelings for a close friend of my brother. We still talk and things are fine. Wrong for who? For me, yes. Or a brother for that matter.
Nov 23, You have been best friends since the fourth grade, hanging out at the pool together in the summers, riding your bikes in the woods, and collecting Star Wars action figures back when it wasn't cool. His sister was never really on your radar, unless.
What about my other best friend? The answer is still, yes.
Because I am also not attracted to his sister. Because if we break up, it would be qui Because if we break up, it would be quite awkward to run into an ex. My best friend will almost certainly choose his sister over me because, as the adage says, choose family over friends. But for the rest, I would force them in my social circle to choose sides.
But for everybody else? Do it at your own risk.
No, as long as her brother trusts you and you treat the sister well. That means - no bad behaviour, no disrespect, ring when you say you will and be where you say you will. You don't say how old you are.
If you are teens, then you need to be VERY careful indeed, and if you are in your 20s then you still need to be good to her - if you want to remain friends with your mate - but at least you will be adults. It was out of respect for me! No one wants to hear that kind of talk about one of their siblings, no way, it w No one wants to hear that kind of talk about one of their siblings, no way, it would be a fight.
If you and her break up, then it's going to be difficult to get away from her. Maybe she's there with her new bf.
The other tricky part is some brother's feel a responsibility for their sisters. Some brothers can be touchy about the guy that wants to touch their sister.
Honestly there's nothing wrong. But usually guys try to watch out for their sisters if they know they really aren't dealing with the right person. And mostly because they think they know you so well.
dating my best friend's sister for 24 hours...
But If you have good intentions and want to keep the friendship as it is between you and your best friend you should just try and be a good person to his sister and everything would be fine. Although, I would to like to add that it majorly depends on how the two of you met each other. However, if you have already known her and dated her before meeting her brother, then it may be safe between both of you. Having said that, I believe that every person is made different and will react differently to the same situation.
This situation has helped destroy a lot of friendships over the years.
But if both of you really love each other, it would be best for you to talk it down as mature and responsible adults. I totally disagree on the comments if your friend doesn't like it don't do it. And you never know how long a friendship will last. It could fade out and you could have missed out on a great relationship that even leads to marriage. Not in every case. For example. My mother married my father, who was her best friends friends brother, and they have been married almost 40 years.