Sign up for the Divorced Girl Smiling newsletter to receive weekly articles that might help you during and after your divorce! I seriously felt like I was going to go insane. Here was a woman who I thought was my good girlfriend. We had gotten together a few times and I had told her things-personal things about my ex and our relationship, why I was getting divorced, etc. I shared things with her and trusted her. Weeks later, I saw my ex leaving her house.
I have lost several friends over this as they have chosen him in this divorce. Where no sides should have every been taken. My husband of 10 years and my best friend left me for each other. I feel very blessed to have found this article.
I felt at fault and betrayed. The article made me feel not so alone. My son will figure it out without me! I have to know more before I can offer advice. If there are kids involved than you probably have to communicate with your ex. Your kids will figure it out. It may take years but they will get it. My not yet ex wife is dating my best friend of 20 years after two weeks he has already said he loves her. I am so sorry!!!
Please breathe. This will pass. Try to remember that the two of you are on separate roads now and you should focus only on yourself and your kids.
As for your friend, I am absolutely disgusted by him. As for your wife, she might think she is in love, but part of her is only trying to get back at you-subconsciously even.
But I get it.
Your life will only get better as you realize that you deserve so much more. Choose your next girlfriend as a person who will treat you as well as you are willing to treat her. You have a bright future. Just get through this one day at a time and remember that you are deserving of better people in your life. Take care of yourself, exercise, do your best to sleep, stay away from addictions and allow yourself to grieve.
Each day will improve and you will see the sunshine again. Hang in there! It really sucks now, but this is the worst of it. It will get better as you take care of yourself. You can make it.
My ex boyfriend dating my best friend
My ex-husband that I have been supporting both emotionally and financially while he was going through a rough few years I supported him because we have a child just informed me that he and my friend have decided to start dating.
How do I handle this? What a nightmare. I am so so sorry. In other words, keep business separate if you can. You kind of have to hold in your feelings if you want to keep the business. Shame on them. This is presuming there was nothing untoward before the divorce.
I divorced after 9 years, and the last 3 were awful. My best male friend was there for me, impartially, during the most stressful moments, as he was for my ex. It was during those moments of deep conversation, reflection and quiet understanding that we connected on a different level. This is a real selfless love we have for one another, not a childish retaliation or a rebound. I also know that if he has loved me, he will see that we are all in a better place mentally to move forward and grow.
Keep a level head. Spoken like someone who screwed her friend and her friends husband or ex.
To try to make made up excuses that make YOU feel better or trying to justify abhorrent behavior is just despicable and any excuses you make are just for your own benefit. Trying to make yourself happy while ruining someone else or devastating them and betraying them will never work.
So if you want to live in fantasy land, go ahead. Look in the mirror honestly and stop trying to make excuses for your behavior. It is NOT ok and never will be. I could not have said it any better.
Anyone who makes the justification in their head to make themselves feel its OK to do this is selfish and delusional. My ex husband confided in someone I considered a friend. This woman congratulated us during our marriage and rubbed my belly when I was pregnant. Unbeknownst to me he would confide in her when we had our issues. They engaged in a relationship while we were married and flaunted it on social media.
May 29, The dilemma I'm dating this amazing archotelzeeland.com problem is he is my best friend's ex. She and I were soul sisters, spoke on the phone for hours, had sleepovers all the time. Mar 17, It doesn't matter how long you dated your ex, who broke up with who, or if you're still sometimes hooking up with him, it still feels like a slap in the face to find out your friend is dating him.I mean like Gretchen Weiners said, ex-boyfriends are just off-limits to friends, that's just like, the rules of archotelzeeland.com the reality is that it happens, and sometimes it happens to you. Mar 27, I split up with my ex a year ago and quickly started dating. I met someone nice, but within weeks I discovered that my ex and my best friend had started a relationship. When I found out, I felt a Author: Molly Ringwald.
This killed me inside. I was numb and hurt beyond measure. To make matters worse I had to deal with this hurt and raise our 2 year old child who was recently diagnosed with ASD. I would ask him for help with our child and I was and continue to be hurled with insults and comparisons to the woman he is engaged to from him!
Throughout all of this. I have never mentioned anything to him about her. Gritted my teeth kept my head held high even though I wanted to crawl into a hole. Recently she reached out to me and wanted to in her words talk to me woman to woman.
I did not respond to her text message. She then told me that I am spreading lies about her relationship with my ex husband and I am a bitter person and threatened that I should stop talking about her. I prayed about it and realized that her wanting to talk to me was about them trying to appease their guilt and furthermore I was not married to her, but their failure to recognize their wrong and wanting to engage in the relationship tells me talking to them about it would not help me.
It would only hurt my progress. Dealing with divorce coupled with betrayal and the mix of what life throws your way is so very difficult. That is adding insult to injury.
I firmly disagree with you on that. The advice to that person, should be STOP. J if I could do it over again, I would have sent your response block and continue to live Happily Ever After.
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Thank you again for all that you do. Seriously, you should be a therapist. Thank you beyond measure. If you find yourself in this situation, here are some tips on how to handle it and how NOT to go insane: 1.
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Sheila My 10 year old son has requested to go live with his Dad. March 28th, Reply. Kayla My ex-boyfriend and I just broke up yesterday, because of the girl that is now currently dating him. Kelly This is funny, ironic funny. May 6th, Reply. Allow yourself the time to be upset and grieve. But know that those social weirdnesses all smooth out eventually, one way or another.
There was a seam in the sofa that had been wearing away for years, pieces of stuffing frequently coming loose. She reached down to pull some of the stuffing out and dried my tears with it. She destroyed a sofa in order to wipe my tears. It was the first thing I laughed at post-breakup because it was so weird and touching.
But it reminded me that being around people who make you feel good speeds the healing process.
Plus, maybe one day you and your friend will find a way to connect again. Time ended up healing this gaping wound: my friend and I have reconnected. I promise. Here's how to deal.
My not yet ex wife is dating my best friend of 20 years after two weeks he has already said he loves her. She told me two days after I had a traumatic wreck and they have been talking ever since and I'm a . Mar 01, If a friend of mine ever got with an ex girlfriend of mine, he wouldn't be a friend any longer. Best friend or not. An unwritten rule in friendship and relationships. I would never dream of going after a friends ex girlfriend. Never. It is in the. Jul 16, After I found out my ex and friend were dating, I cried for hours on my best friend's couch. There was a seam in the sofa that had been wearing away for years, pieces of stuffing frequently.
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Jun 04, In fact, when we met, my now-partner was on a date with my best friend. They dated casually for a few weeks before they split up and we got together, and Author: Lindsay King-Miller. Jun 14, I seriously felt like I was going to go insane. Here was a woman who I thought was my good girlfriend. We had gotten together a few times and I had told her things - personal things about my ex and our relationship, why I was getting divorced, etc. etc. I shared things with her and trusted her. Weeks later, I saw my ex leaving her house. He had also grown close with my best friend Bonnie*, so the three of us started to hang out all the time. I began to think of Michael less and less as my ex-boyfriend and more as a best friend. Hope. One Friday night I invited Michael and Bonnie to the harbor with my family and me.
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