Sign up for the Divorced Girl Smiling newsletter to receive weekly articles that might help you during and after your divorce! I have come to accept my divorce but I am struggling with accepting her betrayal. She began to end her marriage when my husband moved out. She had dumped me by this point. At the one year mark, she kicked her husband out. I supported their marriage, encouraging Retrouvaille a Catholic weekend program for troubled marriages and by encouraging her husband to move back in and fight for his marriage. I fasted and prayed for them, another Catholic tradition.
My daughter is happily married to a man whom was divorced six months before they started dating. However in your case there are complications. You are way younger than she is, and her ex friend.
This may spark some irrational insecurity inside her. The woman you speak of reminds me of an old friend I use to have.
Best friend dating my ex husband
She did the same, and had a loving devoted husband whom she traded for extramarital flings in order to feel younger or in her words more alive. He found out and left her, and they both got remarried. They are still going strong but his ex wife def caused them a lot of strife.
You are 26 why do you think a 45 year old man contacting you? But it will be not much more than a waste, especially with his schedule, you will not get much of a courtship or attention later on.
I suggest you want until you fall in love with someone, someone you can build a long term future together. Why get yourself into a mud hole knowingly? He is a nice guy but there are many other nice guys. The poster said he was 39 and the woman was 45 or have I missed something? Calling her a crappy friend is harsh when the posters friend mans ex wife was saying she was out to get pregnant. Maybe read the posts before judging next time it sounds like a complicated situation.
Oct 14, I know it sounds bad, and it probably is. But like the title states, I'm thinking about dating my best friends ex husband. I got to know them both, and although I'm closer to her, he has recently asked me to date him. Here's the history. She cheated on him multiple times and left him for a guy whom she was having an affair with for seven. My ex-husband that I have been supporting both emotionally and financially while he was going through a rough few years (I supported him because we have a child) just informed me that he and my friend have decided to start dating. Advice for a woman who wrote to tell me, "My ex and my best friend are dating:" As I just passed the one-year anniversary of my divorce, I've learned that what many had suggested at the time of my separation is most likely true: there is "something" between my ex and my former BFF. I .
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Dating My Friends Ex
October 14, at am Reply. Amanda Rocks. Exactly what Amanda rock said! I wouldnt do it for these 3 reasons the ex-wife would meedle as she already done once - she sounds terrible, she would do everything to broke you up for her selfish reasons the guy may be not over the heart-break. Thank you for the above replies.
The way I see this is you need to get yourself in a good place. To deal with broken people all the time does not heal you. I think you need healthier men and women in your life. October 14, at pm Reply. Search The Forums. See All Recently ated Topics. Most popular topics Topics with no replies.
My husband of 10 years and my best friend left me for each other. I feel very blessed to have found this article.
I felt at fault and betrayed. The article made me feel not so alone. My son will figure it out without me! I have to know more before I can offer advice. If there are kids involved than you probably have to communicate with your ex. Your kids will figure it out. It may take years but they will get it. My not yet ex wife is dating my best friend of 20 years after two weeks he has already said he loves her. I am so sorry!!!
Please breathe. This will pass. Try to remember that the two of you are on separate roads now and you should focus only on yourself and your kids. As for your friend, I am absolutely disgusted by him.
As for your wife, she might think she is in love, but part of her is only trying to get back at you-subconsciously even. But I get it. Your life will only get better as you realize that you deserve so much more. Choose your next girlfriend as a person who will treat you as well as you are willing to treat her. You have a bright future.
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Just get through this one day at a time and remember that you are deserving of better people in your life. Take care of yourself, exercise, do your best to sleep, stay away from addictions and allow yourself to grieve. Each day will improve and you will see the sunshine again.
Hang in there! It really sucks now, but this is the worst of it. It will get better as you take care of yourself. You can make it.
My ex-husband that I have been supporting both emotionally and financially while he was going through a rough few years I supported him because we have a child just informed me that he and my friend have decided to start dating.
How do I handle this? What a nightmare. I am so so sorry. In other words, keep business separate if you can.
You kind of have to hold in your feelings if you want to keep the business. Shame on them.
My Ex is Dating my Friend! How to Handle it and How to NOT Go Insane
This is presuming there was nothing untoward before the divorce. I divorced after 9 years, and the last 3 were awful. My best male friend was there for me, impartially, during the most stressful moments, as he was for my ex. It was during those moments of deep conversation, reflection and quiet understanding that we connected on a different level.
This is a real selfless love we have for one another, not a childish retaliation or a rebound.
I also know that if he has loved me, he will see that we are all in a better place mentally to move forward and grow. Keep a level head. Spoken like someone who screwed her friend and her friends husband or ex.
To try to make made up excuses that make YOU feel better or trying to justify abhorrent behavior is just despicable and any excuses you make are just for your own benefit. Trying to make yourself happy while ruining someone else or devastating them and betraying them will never work.
So if you want to live in fantasy land, go ahead. Look in the mirror honestly and stop trying to make excuses for your behavior. It is NOT ok and never will be. I could not have said it any better. Anyone who makes the justification in their head to make themselves feel its OK to do this is selfish and delusional.
My ex husband confided in someone I considered a friend. This woman congratulated us during our marriage and rubbed my belly when I was pregnant.
Unbeknownst to me he would confide in her when we had our issues. They engaged in a relationship while we were married and flaunted it on social media. This killed me inside. I was numb and hurt beyond measure. To make matters worse I had to deal with this hurt and raise our 2 year old child who was recently diagnosed with ASD.
I would ask him for help with our child and I was and continue to be hurled with insults and comparisons to the woman he is engaged to from him! Throughout all of this.
I have never mentioned anything to him about her. Gritted my teeth kept my head held high even though I wanted to crawl into a hole. Recently she reached out to me and wanted to in her words talk to me woman to woman. I did not respond to her text message. How about some advice on how to make amends? Only if she was deceived or betrayed when they were dating should you have major misgivings.
May 29, The dilemma I'm dating this amazing archotelzeeland.com problem is he is my best friend's ex. She and I were soul sisters, spoke on the phone for hours, had sleepovers all the time. Jun 14, I seriously felt like I was going to go insane. Here was a woman who I thought was my good girlfriend. We had gotten together a few times and I had told her things - personal things about my ex and our relationship, why I was getting divorced, etc. etc. I shared things with her and trusted her. Weeks later, I saw my ex leaving her house. CMV: My best friend has no right to date my ex-husband. [?(s) from OP] When I split from my high school sweetheart after 11 years together, 2 years married, my maid of honor was at a bar with him making him feel better while I hauled every box and bag of stuff out to my car alone.
I suggest you focus less on how your feelings are impairing your present romantic relationship and more on how to repair what was clearly an important past friendship. I wonder how many people have hooked up with a new, exciting lover only to miss the mundanity of their ex, or married and had kids only to hanker after their singleton days, or even moved to a better paid job and felt nostalgic for the camaraderie of the less lucrative one.
We humans have the ability to travel between our own two ears, come up with new ideas, imagine alternative worlds and encounter imaginary people. Insist on a rendezvous and listen sympathetically to what your friend has to say, explain how bad the situation has left you feeling and try to establish new and workable ground rules for how you can return to being soul mates. If you shrug off the guilt and set your sights on restoring your friendship I suspect at least two of you will be far happier.
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