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Dear Amy: Shortly after meeting my boyfriend five years ago, I moved into his apartment and we are very happy together.
He is a hard-working and caring person - the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. Getting married has always been very important to me, and I always hoped that moving in together was a step in that direction. However, five years later, he has yet to propose and, though I often bring up the prospect of marrying someday, he never has much to say. Why the wait, when he knows how I long for it?
I turned 30 this year and always imagined myself married with kids by now. How can I gently nudge him to propose?
Feb 02, 4 1/2 years together and no proposal. Mainly guys please? We've been dating for 4 1/2 years, we've lived together for about 1 1/2 years. He says he wants to marry me, but he still hasn't proposed. I'm just trying to figure out why he hasn't made his move yet. we have been living mutually for 4 years and had 2 canines. We had spoke of. Mar 07, After 5 years with no proposal, it might be time for an ultimatum Post to Facebook Time for ultimatum After 5 years with no proposal, it . May 16, Hello I've been dating my boyfriend for years. I don't want 4 to 5 years to pass and we are still in the same place. I was very open in the beginning advising him I will like to be married again. I was previously married for 8 years and it ended.
You bring up the topic of marriage often. Surely he has become skilled at the artful dodge. It might be time for an ultimatum. In your case, the ultimatum goes like this: We either get married or we break up.
These Are The Real Reasons Your Long-Term Boyfriend Hasn't Proposed Yet
It is counterintuitive to present someone with two such distinctly opposite choices, but you may have reached the illogical, all-or-nothing stage.
You need to realize that if your guy really wanted to marry you, he would have done so by now. You surrendered your power years ago by compromising your own genuine desire for marriage in order to move in with him. If your ultimatum eventually yields a proposal, you should think long and hard about the reality of marrying someone who had to be pressured into it. I personally faced a very similar engagement dynamic many years ago, and ultimately it did not go well. I hated her.
Dear Wishful: From what you say, it sounds as if you - and your school - have handled this situation well. The other girl got the message and she has stopped bullying you.
Dating for 4 years and no proposal
You are also behaving respectfully toward her. I hope she responds with lots of high-fives, hugs and encouragement.
Ted Huston, a leading researcher on transitions in relationships, marriage and parenthood, followed couples for 13 years starting in He states in his study that happily married couples dated for approximately 25 months before getting married.
I suggest you start with the counselor - telling your story and asking whatever questions you have. You and your mom should look at it together. I agree with your take on this. If you're wondering why that could be, check out what these 10 guys confess are the reasons why they haven't asked their long-term girlfriends to marry them.
By Jen Glantz. I'm not really ready.
I've been with my girl for four years now. It seems like a really long time.
It is. But I'm not sure I'm ready to get married right now and take things to the next level. We are both only 24 so it's weird to me that we'd be married before we could even rent a car. Why complicate things?
I've seen what marriage does to relationships. All my friends from college got married in their twenties.
They all found such sweet girls and then when they got married to them, everything got stale and lame. Marriage made things harder for them.
I love my girlfriend. We've been together sincewhich is a long time and everything, but I just don't want to ruin the good stuff we have with marriage like they did. The perfect moment will come.
Ask Steve: How do I get him to propose? -- STEVE HARVEY
I want to get married but I haven't figured out how to propose. I want that moment to be perfect.
I want it to be in a way that she wants. But every time I get close to setting a date to do it and planning how I am going to do it, I freak out and decide to procrastinate.
Forget about how it is 'supposed to be.'
That's what it is. I'm procrastinating because I'm a little nervous I'll screw the whole thing up. I don't have time or money. Weddings are expensive and take up so much time to put together. It's like we've already lived together for over three years now and we're just trying to work hard at our own careers that we, or I at least, feel like a wedding right now would just be such a stressor on ourselves and our bank accounts.
I'm kind of keeping my options open. I've been in a long relationship with my girlfriend for close to three years now. I love her, don't get me wrong. But a part of me, a very small part, is kind of keeping my options open.